I have a habit of calling attention to my faults rather than my merits and this has probably cost me relationships, job promotions and self-esteem. I don’t really believe what I say or write but it is easier for me to say negative things about myself than positive things. Unfortunately I think others often believe me.
7 thoughts on “71/365 Self-deprecation”
There is a sweet-spot somewhere between self-congratulatory and self-deprecating. I think we all struggle to find it.
Very well put. Both of you. (Feel free to indulge in some self-congratulation.)
It must be difficult for you to write a resume. At one time I wrote resumes for a couple of friends who couldn’t talk themselves up.
It is very difficult, Susan. Part of the reason I have stayed with this job for 17 years.
When I grew up, having self-esteem was called “skiting” (or bragging – a US word we learned on TV). So I can relate. Which is perhaps why I find people who do the opposite, to an extreme, to be very annoying.
I re-read this, and realise how ambiguous it is. To clarify, by “the opposite” I mean those who have mega-self-esteem and a high opinion of themselves.
That’s how I read it.